Even though so many women experience
miscarriages, they're often not discussed, leaving lingering invisible
scars. It can be difficult to know how to help your loved one heal, and
all too easy to say something hurtful. Here are ways to provide the
much-needed support and comfort at this pivotal time. Don’t say:
Nothing. Knowing someone has recently suffered a setback in her life can sometimes leave us at a loss for words. You may think addressing painful topics does more harm than good. But Ellen DuBois, miscarriage survivor and author of I Never Held You, (Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery), suggests simply asking “Do you want to talk about it?” If your friend feels that it’s not the right time for her to discuss the issue, then “I’m sorry for your loss” will let her know you still care.
Nothing. Knowing someone has recently suffered a setback in her life can sometimes leave us at a loss for words. You may think addressing painful topics does more harm than good. But Ellen DuBois, miscarriage survivor and author of I Never Held You, (Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery), suggests simply asking “Do you want to talk about it?” If your friend feels that it’s not the right time for her to discuss the issue, then “I’m sorry for your loss” will let her know you still care.
